A year agon was my last reflective posting and we are on the eve of my sisters first visit and three and half years ago since her husband passed away. Our relationship started when she called to ask me to down to Peach Tree City and help her with her husband’s funeral arrangements. It was really out of the blue given the twenty-year difference in our age and outside of a few visits over the last fifty year, not really any contact or correspondence. I did tell her on her wedding day that if she ever needed any help she just needed to call. I told her it was the same commitment I made to our two brothers. I did relate to her the story that I did receive such a call from Mike to send him some bail money and to make sure Mom and Dad did not find out. By the way, we are not a close family and a visit to my parents every 10 years or so works for us as well as the calls on birthdays and Christmas well as attending weddings. It works.
So over the last three years, I have shepherded two widows through their transition. With my sister, it was frequent emails mostly stories about events in my past or antidotes of my daily life and surroundings with phone calls in between. I would say we have become as close as possible given the gap in years and little contact but drawn together none the less with our consistent dialogue and my desire to help her find herself through her profound grief. Much less today but still there are reminders and there always will be. It is on that note that I am very much looking forward to her visit.
This post is also a bit of reflection on the last year. Two complete knee replacements one in Sept and the other in March. I am back on a routine exercise program and I am able to somewhat get down on to the rowing machine and back up with some grace. Throughout the year I have stayed active with county stormwater issues and after four years of attending the Stormwater Program Advisor Committee meetings as a citizen, I applied and was accepted as a member of the county’s Stormwater Program Advisor Committee. I will attend my first meeting as a member this July.